You have set your boundaries. Now it is time to share them with others.
When do you do this?
How do you tell others so they will honor them?
When I have a theme for a month, I think about it and learn all I can.
Boundaries are on my mind.
I recently got a new kitten. And my boyfriend just had knee surgery. He has been staying with me. Both have been great and both have had challenges.
It has been a long time since I shared my space, full time. I am used to doing things my way. This has been a great way to learn more about my boundaries, including how to share them.
The new cat is learning her boundaries. With the kitten, instead of being upset when she does something I don’t like, I have learned to simply tell her no. No yelling, I just point at her and say word no. I am giving her information she needs to live happily with me. She is learning.
The boyfriend is a different case. He understands full sentences. Instead of being upset about things that he does differently, I needed to find a way to share my boundaries.
I had to get my thoughts together before I broached the subject.
I realize he doesn’t know what I think. He has his ways of doing things. Living with someone is like a dance. It is a give and take.
I want him to feel comfortable and I want to be happy to have him staying with me. I found the things that don’t really matter and I let them go. The boundaries that needed to be shared, I share when I know my thoughts and I am open and loving.
It has been a great learning experience for me. I don’t have to be mad or yell. I just need to be clear, calm, and certain. I am not upset with them, I am just sharing information they do not know yet.
Boundaries can be scary. They are about honoring your wants and needs. No one knows what you want until you tell them. It is important for you and for them.
When you are ready to tell someone your boundary, start with you.
How are you feeling?
What you are thinking?
Sharing boundaries is really quite easy when you come at it with the right thoughts.
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