When I was ready to make a change in my life,
I found I went through three stages.
Stage 1: You don’t know what to do next
This is a common place to be. This happens when there is no strong sense of purpose, or direction. Without intention in life, this is the place people get stuck.
I was here a few times. When I was in college it took a while to find my path to film production. Once I found it I thought I was set for life.
I was in LA when I realized my dream career wasn’t what I wanted anymore. I saw what reaching for the next goal looked like and I didn’t want it.
When I thought about what career I wanted next, I was clueless.
Not knowing what to do or how to find it, at first led me to grab at anything that sounded interesting. I remember sitting at Mammoth Lake and making the decision to leave the city and live a different life. My husband talked about his dream of running a Bed and Breakfast. It wasn’t my dream but it was a direction. I was ready for a change and willing to try anything and it seemed interesting. With a direction in mind, I found us a job at a bed and breakfast in Lake Tahoe. That path led me to catering and then to opening a coffee shop. These were experiences but would not be my final career.
Each experience gave me new information.
Even going back to film production helped me figure out more about my next career. It took time and a lot of self-reflection before I landed on life coaching.
Stage 2: You know what you want to do, but you don’t do it.
This is a frustrating stage because you now know where you want to go, but you haven’t fully committed. This can be more frustrating than not knowing.
Many things can stop us at this stage.
I knew that Life coaching was for me. I had gotten certified and was starting to move in that direction. It still took me time to make the change. I didn’t know how to do it. Or at least that was my thought.
After a few starts and stops I realized a coach could help me. And she did. She helped me through the blocks that kept me in the unfulfilling career. We worked through my fears about doing something new, doing it for myself, being successful, leaving a career and all the people I had worked with for years and so many others.
This is a stage where people get stuck. All of those blocks and fears come to the surface as excuses.
You know what you want to do. You just don’t really believe you can do it. Or you can’t really imagine doing it.
You stay at your current job and it gets harder and harder to enjoy.
I remember working and having a great time and thinking “Do I really want to do something new?” Then having a horrible experience and being ready to quit the next day.
Making a commitment to the change brought up so many thoughts and emotions. My coach helped me work through each one before I got to Stage 3.
Stage 3: Knowing what you want to do and doing it.
Making the commitment was exciting and scary. It finally came down to just taking the leap. I had a leap of faith. I believed I could do it. I had done the work at figuring out my next thing and was ready for the change.
With support I made it happen. My coach helped me to see what was possible.
I looked at all the things I had tried in the past and used those successes and accomplishments to give me the confidence boost I needed to start the new venture.
I have been preparing for this career all my life. I just hadn’t found it until now.
I love what I am doing now. I enjoy the challenge of my own business. And there are many challenges. Each challenge teaches me more and helps me grow into a better coach. Each day I am inspired by my clients. And I am constantly learning and improving.
I know how each stage feels, because I have been in each stage.
I want to help people get to the point of knowing what they want and doing it. Because that is the best feeling.
We are all here to live up to our full potential.
The work to go through the stages isn’t easy but it is revealing, empowering and so worth the effort.