We are responsible for our lives.
When we take responsibility, we have power. When we don’t, we are a victim and have no power to make a change.
It is easy to be a victim when things aren’t going our way. Relationships, careers, health are easy places to become a victim.
Thoughts like:
“ He did…”
“I can’t find anything new because…”
“ I don’t have time to exercise because…”
“ I am this way because…”
We stay stuck and we have reasons why. They seem valid to us. That brain of ours is always proving our thoughts. It can find lots of evidence that proves these statements are true.
But this is just one of the many ways to look at the situation.
I know these excuses. I have used them in the past. They are victim voices.
To take your power back you need to find your part. And then figure out how to react differently.
When I was going through my second divorce, I was in a lot of pain and filled with victim thoughts. My counselor kept saying “ the only thing you can change is your reaction.” I hated that statement, until I understood it.
Others are reacting to you. If someone did something you don’t like, you get to decide how to react. If you come at it by taking responsibility, you keep your power.
I feel helpless when I am in victim mode.
When I feel helpless, I take a step back and see what is really going on.
What am I thinking?
Is it really true?
How am I responsible in this situation?
What am I bringing to it?
Upsetting things happen. My reaction to the situation can give me more anxiety than the situation itself.
When I take responsibility about what I will tolerate and what I won’t, I feel better. We get what we tolerate. If we let others treat us poorly, we will continue to be treated poorly.
Instead of thinking “I can’t change my career because…”
Ask yourself a different question “Why am I staying where I am unhappy?”
When you answer that question and work through those thoughts, you will be closer to finding your next path.
It isn’t easy to do alone. That is where I come in.
I guide people by showing them all they have within themselves. When we made our career choice there was a lot we didn’t know about our chosen career path. Now we have more knowledge about ourselves and our desires.
It’s time to open your mind to all the possibilities out there for you.
It all starts with a free consult call.
We will see where you are, where you want to go and what is holding you back. And then we make a plan to get you there.