Having your back means taking care of yourself. To be kind to yourself. No calling yourself names, or beating yourself up.

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Having your back is about your relationship with yourself.

Currently, I am on a housesit in SF. I have been having a great time. I’m taking public transportation, exploring on foot, walking the dog and working.

But the exposure to new germs got me. I was fighting a cold for about a week but then it took over. I felt crappy.

I am not a good sick person. As a child we were sent to our room when we got sick. The lesson was that I was bad to be sick. We were isolated without much comfort. This was my sickness training.

I have worked to be compassionate to others when they are sick. Luckily, I don’t get sick much. When I do, I repeat the training from my childhood. I isolate and get upset at myself for being sick. No comfort, just punishment.

I started to feel a little sore throat, so I drank more water and took Advil. That didn’t cure it. I keep denying that I was sick. I kept working and exploring. I kept ignoring my body.

My body didn’t like that.

This past weekend I felt horrible. Runny nose, sneezing and fever. I had to stop. I took Saturday to rest. I watched TV, read, napped and took the dog for walks a few times.

I was frustrated by the end of the day. I didn’t explore and I didn’t accomplish anything.

I woke up Sunday and still felt crappy, but I wasn’t wasting another day. I cleaned the house, went to the Orchid show, slowly walked home. I decided that Ramen with lots of garlic would help make me feel better. It was great and I believed that it would heal me.

I was convinced that by Monday morning I would feel better. That wasn’t the case. I was still feeling horrible on Monday.

But Monday was different. I had a different attitude. I surrendered to the sickness. I ate healthy foods, I drank water and was kind to myself. I didn’t care what I did. Reading was my focus and I was enjoying the book.

I wasn’t beating myself up. I wasn’t upset that I wasn’t doing anything. I just rested.

I woke up Tuesday and felt 100% better. It felt miraculous.

As long as I fought the cold, beat myself up and ignored my body I stayed sick.

When I had my back, my body reacted. It healed and took care of itself.

Having my back has changed my life in many ways. Not only did I recover quicker. I felt better along the way. I comforted myself, the way I would comfort a friend.

This is a great place to start. Treat yourself like you would a friend. That is all having your back means.

When we stop being mean to ourselves our life can turn around instantly.

Yesterday I was back to exploring. I had the energy to change when the original plan didn’t work out. And I found things I never would have found.

There are always new things to learn about having my back. It is a practice. It only gets better.

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