Gain from your pain

Gain from your pain

We learn about life and ourselves through our experiences. In childhood we have little control over those experiences but they are where we learn our values. Many of my biggest lessons have come from my childhood experiences. Our life is formed by our experiences. As...
Are you happy?

Are you happy?

We are in charge of our lives. We are in control of our happiness. Sometimes we think we don’t have control of our happiness, that other people are in control. This is not true. Sometimes we think other people had all the advantages that is why they are happy. This is...
Everything is Temporary

Everything is Temporary

I recently read an article about Bruce Springsteen. He said that when he looks back at the old songs it feels like eight lifetimes ago. Our life is always changing. And everything is temporary. Who you are now isn’t who you were years ago. Even if you have the same...
What’s Next?

What’s Next?

I remember the feelings I had when I was ready for a new career. There were days that work was fun and I felt good. But then there were the days I wasn’t into the work and it was a horrible situation. I felt such despair.I was upset with myself for feeling unhappy. I...
Taking Compliments

Taking Compliments

How do you take compliments? Do you just say “thank you”? Or do you deflect? Do you say something like-“Oh this old thing”, “I got it for $5”, “I have had it forever”.Why do you think that you do that? Deflecting is a learned behavior and a lot of us do it. I noticed...
Learning your lessons

Learning your lessons

Throughout our school lives we have been taught to work hard and get good grades. This is our training. We are taught that failure is bad. If you fail you haven’t worked hard enough, you haven’t done what you are supposed to do. In a school situation, this may be...