Having your Back

Having your Back

Having your own back is a concept that sounds so easy but it has been one of the hardest things for me to master. A lot has to do with my childhood. My mother is a narcissist. It was always about her and her needs. I had to learn the difference of being selfish and...
What we look for we find

What we look for we find

What we look for we find. If you look for the good, you find good. If you look for the negative, you will find that. It is amazing how this works.   A great example of this happened in my life. My birthday is February 1. As an adult I have a yearly birthday party. It...
Relationship plan

Relationship plan

Our lives stay on the same path unless we change them. My life has changed drastically. When I first arrived in WNC. I was married. We created a coffee shop and community together. And I started a women’s group. The divorce changed everything. For me, all the goals we...
Boundaries

Boundaries

Setting boundaries is telling people how you want to be treated. If you don’t tell them how will they know? We tend to think they are a negative thing. We don’t have to look at them this way. We can look at them like they are our guidelines for ourselves and others....
Our Stories

Our Stories

Our stories are what define our lives. We decide the stories we tell. The question is: Are these the stories we want defining us? Stories are subjective. We all see things differently because of our experiences and backgrounds. Think about that game, telephone, we...
File of Fabulousness

File of Fabulousness

A file of fabulousness is the perfect thing for those days you don’t feel it. My Mother is a narcissist. It has been hard for me to think I am great. I don’t want to be anything like a narcissist. I had work to get past this thought. We all need to love ourselves. I...